Decolonize Your Pleasure | An Ancestral Pleasure Ritual + Play Party

This is a Pagans Paradise and Sovereign Love NYC themed social gathering with educational and performance elements. All are welcome. Decolonize Your Pleasure is open to people of every race, ethnicity, culture, religion, gender identity, sexual orientation, relationship structure, body, and background. You do not need to share any particular ancestry, spiritual tradition, or identity to participate. We ask only that you arrive with respect—for the practices being shared, for the identities and experiences of others, and for everyone’s boundaries and consent.

📅 Date: Fri Oct 16th, 2026

🕰️ Time: 8:00 PM – 3:00 AM

📍 Location: Private Venue in Union Square –Address provided in email confirmation in the additional info section, check promotional/spam folder. (note: this location is a walk-up)

Event Details

1. Doors Open: 8:00 PM
2. Opening Circle & Ritual: 9:00 PM
3. Free Play: 10:30 PM
4. Event Ends: 3:00 AM

How much of your desire is actually yours?

Before you ever knew what turned you on, you were being taught what pleasure “was supposed to look like.”

Which bodies were desirable.

What desires were acceptable.

Who was “respectable.”

But those stories didn't begin with you.

Our bodies carry echoes of what came before us—generations of religion, culture, family expectations, survival, shame, gender roles and social conditioning that shaped our relationship with pleasure long before we were old enough to question any of it.

On October 16th, we're going to question ALL OF IT.

Decolonize Your Pleasure is an immersive evening of ancestral ritual, erotic reclamation and embodied exploration designed to help you peel away inherited stories and get closer to the desire underneath them.

Not the desire you've been told you should have.

Not the desire that makes you LOOK liberated, spiritual, sexy, kinky or evolved.

We will be going deeper than the aesthetics of pleasure to find

Our own authentic pleasure.

🎭 THE RITUAL

We'll begin by turning backward.

Through a guided ritual adapted from Toltec tradition, we'll trace the stories we carry about our bodies, sexuality, desire and pleasure through the generations that came before us.

I come to this practice through my own Aztec lineage and more than seven years of training in Toltec tradition. This is a practice I've lived with—and one I'm inviting you to experience with me.

We'll honor what our ancestors carried.

We'll recognize what may have protected them.

And we'll ask What no longer needs to travel with us?

You're invited to bring a photograph, name, flower, small object or offering for our ancestor altar—someone whose story you want present with you that night.

Then we'll turn forward.

Because what happens when the shame stops with you?

What becomes possible when the next generation doesn't have to inherit the same fear of the body, the same silence around desire, or the same rules about who they're allowed to become?

You'll be invited to release beliefs about your pleasure that you're ready to put down...

…and name something you're ready to reclaim.

Because reclamation isn't about becoming more sexual.

It's about becoming more authentically YOU.

✨THE PLAY PARTY

Then the play space opens for you to express your newly uncovered authenticity.

Throughout the evening, different stations will offer invitations into embodied exploration: impact, rope, sensation, primal fire energy, and other forms of consensual play.

You can discover that the thing you thought you wanted isn't actually yours—or finally give yourself permission to become curious about the thing you've spent years pushing away.

There is nothing you need to prove here.

Your pleasure does not need to look liberated to anyone else. It only needs to belong to you.

Guardians will be present throughout the evening to help maintain the container, and a low-stimulation space will be available whenever you want quiet, grounding or a moment away from the intensity.

This is a space for consenting adults ready to explore pleasure as something ancestral, embodied, primal—and entirely theirs to define.

Come meet the desire underneath the conditioning.

Come honor what came before you without being bound by it.

Come put down what was never yours.

And come find out what your body chooses when it no longer needs anyone's permission.

👗Dress Code:

Channel erotic energy with attire that reflects the themes of sacred sensuality:

✨Evening wear, Lingerie or Kink attire

✨Earth goddess vibes, body adornments, veils, and natural fabrics

✨Feel free to embody the energy of a priestess, consort, or sacred initiate

Note: Stay authentic to your personal style while honoring the sacred and sensual vibe of the evening.

Please avoid street clothing, jeans, or casual wear. This is a curated event, and guests dressed inappropriately may be turned away.

🕊️ Consent & Safety:

This is a trauma-informed space where consent and boundaries are sacred. All touch and connection are by invitation only—no one will ever be pressured to participate in any activity. Our events are about stepping into your authentic self expression while honoring your personal boundaries and the boundaries of others.

Please Note: All activities are consent based and optional. Feel free to participate in what feels comfortable and aligned with your personal wishes. We encourage everyone to have an open mind in that this is an experience that welcomes all to explore and try new things within a safer, curated space. We will review community agreements and expectations for behavior to ensure the safest possible space for exploration. We will also review the dynamics of how to engage at our event during our opening circle.

Trigger Warning: We do our best to create a safer space through a trauma-informed lens, however due to the nature of ancestral work; difficult feelings may arise during our ritual. Our trauma-informed guides and staff guardians are here to hold space with care and sensitivity. We ask that you join us in co-creating a brave space—one where we each take responsibility for managing our triggers and regulating our nervous systems. For those who may feel overstimulated, we offer a Low Stimulation Area as a place to ground and center. Additionally, neutral social area is available outside the ritual should you wish to step away and reconnect at your own pace.

🚫 IMPORTANT NOTICE: NO RECORDING GLASSES

META • SMART GLASSES • CAMERA EYEWEAR

ARE NOT PERMITTED IN THIS SPACE

📷 If your glasses have a camera, they must be removed before entering. This includes Meta / Ray-Ban Meta, Oakley Meta, camera glasses, wearable cameras, and concealed recording devices.

CONSENT TO ENTER ≠ CONSENT TO BE RECORDED

Our community deserves the freedom to explore kink, sexuality, nudity, intimacy, and vulnerability without wondering whether someone is filming them. You may be asked to submit your glasses for inspection if staff suspects they are camera glasses.

LATE ENTRY AND REFUNDS

There are NO Refunds for this event - if you can't make it, please gift or sell your ticket to a worthy soul. To protect the space, late arrivals will not be admitted after doors close, and refunds will not be provided.

ABOUT US

Pagans Paradise is NYCs inclusive community hub for pleasure and wellbeing. A curator of experiences where you can explore intimacy, tantra and more.

📧 (Email) Any questions or concerns: pagansparadisenyc@gmail.com

📸 (IG) Connect and get the latest news @templenight.nyc @pagansparadise, @sovereignlove.nyc

✨ Join the event chat on Plura app, and connect with people before: https://plra.io/m/org/pagans-paradise

📩 Join our newsletter at www.PagansParadise.com.

Cover Art: The Garden of Earthly Delights by Hieronymus Bosch