ETHICAL NON-MONOGAMY DISCUSSION GROUP

This discussion group is open to anyone who is curious about or already active in a consensual non-monogamous (ENM) lifestyle including open relationships, swinging, multiple D/s dynamics, and polyamory (hierarchical, non-hierarchical, solo poly...)

Struggles in ENM relationships often grow out of unclear expectations, passive communication, and a resistance to being accountable for your own emotions. This group is intended to be a resource for understanding and participating in these lifestyles from an emotionally healthy lens, for exorcising mononormative cultural conditioning, and ultimately engaging in personal growth. Expect to be challenged on issues of codependence, boundaries v rules, radical honesty, and others.

This Week's Topic

**Jealousy: Taking It Apart**

Jealousy gets treated like a character flaw in non-monogamous spaces, as if doing ENM "right" means never feeling it. This month we're taking a more useful approach: looking at what jealousy is actually made of.

We'll dig into what's underneath the feeling, whether that's fear of being replaced, unmet needs, comparison, or something older than the current relationship. From there we'll talk about practical ways to sit with it without acting on it, and how to name it to a partner in a way that invites connection instead of defensiveness.

We'll also spend time on the other side of the equation: what to do when your partner brings their jealousy to you. How do you hold space without taking responsibility for a feeling that isn't yours, and without dismissing it either?

Come with questions, stories, or just your curiosity. All experience levels welcome, whether you're years into ENM or still figuring out if it's for you.

YOUR HOSTS

JnPplay

Patty and Jon have been navigating the wild, wonderful world of Ethical Non-Monogamy for 30 years—and they’re here to share the ups, downs, and all the juicy in-betweens! Married for 28 years and currently thriving in a poly quad, they’ve explored everything from polyamory to swinging to BDSM with an open heart and a healthy dose of curiosity.

Patty, who’s diving into the depths of psychology, loves unpacking relationship dynamics and the magic of meaningful connections. Jon is equally passionate about fostering trust, communication, and an inclusive space where people can be their most authentic selves. Together, they support sex positivity, LGBTQIA+ advocacy, and the belief that honesty, respect, and a dash of fun make for the best conversations.

Whether you’re new to ENM or a seasoned adventurer, their discussion group is a judgment-free zone where real talk happens, insights are shared, and laughter is always welcome. Come join the conversation, swap stories, and celebrate the beautiful, unconventional paths that make life exciting!