Hoe With Purpose: Erotic Strategy for the Emotionally Unavailable & Sensually Aware

with Sarai311

a live and recorded online class from Wicked Grounds

9/1 6pm Pacific

You're not chaotic. You just don't want what everyone assumes you want and nobody's teaching you how to build the erotic life you're actually after.

The entire world is set up to push you toward romance: the apps, the communities, the conversations, the expectations. If you're aromantic, done with situationships, or just clear that you want pleasure without the relationship, there's almost no framework built for you. So you improvise. And improvising leads to drama, confusion, and connections that cost more than they were worth.

This class is for aromantic folks, casual players, and intentional pleasure-seekers who want a system for their erotic life, not just vibes.

IN THIS CLASS YOU WILL:

• Name and understand amatonormativity; the cultural pressure to make romance the goal, and why opting out is a design choice, not a flaw
• Learn how to reframe casual sex as ethical and strategic, not careless
• Use the Return on Intimacy framework to decide where your erotic energy is actually worth spending
• Build and audit a rotation that stays clean of entanglement and drama
• Practice scripts for navigating casual kink conversations with clarity and confidence
• Get tools for handling ghosting, rejection, and NRE without losing your footing

An intentional erotic life is possible. This class shows you how to build one.

PRESENTER:

Sarai311 (any/all) is a BIPOC kink educator, poet, and event organizer with a decade of experience across classroom and community learning spaces. She brings eight years of formal teaching and three years of active kink engagement into her work, blending curriculum design, emotionally grounded facilitation, and embodied pedagogy. A doctoral candidate, her research on identity development and culturally relevant pedagogy directly informs her kink education practice.

Within the kink community, she has served as a Dungeon Monitor, demo bottom, and board member for Whippersnappers TNG, and is the founder and lead organizer of BIPOC at Frolicon. She presents across the Southeast at events including Frolicon, Southeast Leatherfest, and Dark Odyssey, and has been published thrice in Black Leather in Color Magazine. Sarai311 is also the author of 'What We Could Never Be' and 'Unholy Attachments', and is known for creating spaces where kink, identity, and intentional self-exploration can safely coexist.

ACCESS:

This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and provided to attendees for viewing up to one week after the class date.

Zoom now provides closed captioning, which will be available for this event.