How to Pick Your Person(s)

Name: How to Pick Your Person(s)
Start: 2026-09-09T01:00:00.000Z
End: 2026-09-09T03:30:00.000Z
Location: Zoom

Zoom
Wednesday, Sep 9th
1 AM - 3:30 AM
22 people on the list
Organized by TurnON.love

NOTE: This event is cross posted on other ticking platforms, so RSVPs on Plura do not reflect the actual number of tickets sold.

How do you know if this person is a good fit for you? Are you afraid you’re settling, or perhaps you’re worried you’re being too picky?

Intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love will help you discover your non-negotiables, making it easier for you to own your wants and needs so that you Pick your Person(s).

Learn to:

• Identify your needs and learn how to honor them as your non-negotiables

• Explore your wants and learn to be more flexible, recognizing them as negotiable

• Create a relationship manifesto that describes what you need in a lover/partner in a way that feels clear, authentic and empowering

• Develop a filter so you can feel confident about your choices, allowing yourself to feel an enthusiastic YES!

• Learn how to gently and compassionately end connections that aren’t nourishing and how to courageously and vulnerably invite deeper intimacy with the right person(s) for you!

By confidently owning your wants and needs, you’ll know which relationships will be nourishing for you and worthy of your investment, and which ones are best to lovingly let go. This course is ideal for both monogamous and non-monogamous folks.

Can’t make this workshop on this date? Watch on demand!

Reviews

“Dr. Aly helped me develop a framework for my needs that completely transformed my understanding of myself and every relationship I've ever had. With this clearer vision of what I was looking for, I was able to recognize without a doubt when I finally met the right person. I couldn't be happier or more confident in my choice of partner." - V.D.

"I attended it at a time when I was thinking a lot about whether someone I'd been dating for ~8 months was a good long-term fit, and it gave me a lot of clarity on what was working for me about the relationship, what I was missing, and how to invite more of the latter.” - S.J.

“I found Dr. Aly’s process for clarifying our relationship needs and wants to be very useful. As a certified sex educator myself, I have taken many similar workshops in the past, but feel like I came away with more clarity regarding what I am personally looking for in a partner.” - G.R.

Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy.

She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

Additional details

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is partially accessible. The workshop space is wheelchair accessible, but the bathrooms are not. There is a gender inclusive bathroom on site.

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