How to Sex Party: Things I Wish I Had Learned Sooner

How to Sex Party is about everything else that happens when you put a bunch of humans—and all of their desires, insecurities, relationships, boundaries, and baggage—into one very sexy space.

This class is a collection of things I wish someone had taught me sooner, many of which I learned the hard way. We'll cover play party etiquette, culture, and unwritten rules; managing risk; regulating your emotions; approaching people and handling rejection; and navigating interpersonal situations with partners, friends, exes, and strangers.

We'll also explore the gap between the tidy version of rules we learn in consent speeches and the messy reality of actual human interaction—how to make thoughtful decisions when things aren't perfectly black and white, how to learn from your experiences, and how to debrief and reflect either on your own or with a partner. With the right tools, your experiences at play parties can become part of a genuinely rewarding personal journey.

Through discussion, role-play exercises, reflection, and practical tools, you'll leave with actionable insights you can actually use to make your next experience better.

Who is this class for?

New to sex parties? Get a huge head start with the things I wish I'd known before I started attending.

Seasoned party veteran? You'll likely discover things you haven't considered and have opportunities to make new friends & share some of your own hard-earned wisdom.

After the Workshop, comes the AfterHours!

After the workshop, the lights go down and the setting transforms into our AfterHours - a mini play party. It’s a space explicitly curated to be a playground for folks who deeply care about intentional mutual pleasure, and you'll have the dedicated physical space and freedom to explore the very desires we discuss together during class. The space will have different types of activity stations to inspire you. Engage at your own comfort level—whether that means observing, casually chatting by the snacks, or connecting with others. BYOB (This is not a hook-up style event)

Workshop Format

1. Feel Free to Take Notes! If it helps you learn, we encourage you to bring a notepad to jot notes and reflections
2. Interactions: The Workshop may include personal reflections, interactive demonstrations, and practical exercises. This may include solo/partner/group activities. Participate and opt-in to the extent of your comfort - you can also just sit back at any time and observe others!
3. Come Alone or With Someone! Arrive solo or with others—friends, coworkers, or your entire polycule! You'll have the opportunity to interact with others, switch partners, and practice with both familiar and new faces. We don't pair people up; engage at your own comfort level. Couples can stay paired or practice with others.
4. Dress Code: Feel free to dress however you want, whether date-night vanilla or spicy. There is a place to change outfits.
5. Who Can Come: This workshop is open to all gender identifications, orientations, lifestyles, singles and couples. All experience levels welcome. 21+

Please Acknowledge:

It should go without saying, but we are going to spell it out clearly nonetheless: k¡nk and intimacy activities are inherently risky. Safety requires practice and cannot be guaranteed. By attending, you agree to participate at your own risk, conduct your own risk management, and agree to hold the event facilitators and facility harmless for any type of physical or emotional harm that may occur.

Event Details:

1. Doors Open: 7:30 PM (doors close at 8:00 PM)
2. AfterHours 10pm start
3. Event Ends: 12 AM
4. Location: Provided in your confirmation email (check spam/promo folder)
5. Accessibility: Walk-up venue

ABOUT US

At Pagans Paradise, we believe in creating a welcoming, joyful space for everyone to explore connection, dive into a range of educational resources, and nurture their authentic selves.

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Any questions or concerns?

📧 Email: nix@sirenatrix.pro

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Pagans Paradise has been fostering joy and connection in the community for 10 years.

Pricing:

● Workshop and AfterHours: Early Bird $55 / General Admission $75

LATE ENTRY & REFUNDS

To protect the space and ensure a seamless experience for all, doors will close promptly. Late arrivals may not be admitted, and refunds will not be available. Refund requests must be made up to seven days prior to the event.