Monthly Roundtable for Polyamory/Non-Monogamy

The Brooklyn Poly Roundtable is a monthly discussion-centered, community gathering for those who want to learn about and share experiences/perspectives on topics related to non-monogamy and polyamory. This month's topic is:

• Resource allocation in polyamory

Polyamory can make explicit something that most relationships leave unspoken and unexamined: we have a fixed amount of time, money, space, and energy, and we’re dividing it. People in monogamous relationships can ignore important aspects of this reality by assuming they and their partner will default to giving everything to each other. Polyamory can’t make that promise, so you have to actually talk about it. Calendars get shared. Who pays for what? Who sleeps where? How often? Those conversations don’t end. Once we accept the idea that dividing resources is inevitable we can focus more on how to do that with purpose and clarity.

The harder part is what that division stirs up. A lot of us grew up with the idea that love means total availability, so when a partner’s time or attention goes elsewhere, it can feel like subtraction even when we know rationally it isn’t. How do you tell a partner “I don’t have more to give you right now” without it sounding like a ranking? And how do you figure out which feelings need a conversation and which ones are just yours to sit with? Those are the questions we’re hoping to dig into together.

As always, this space is about learning from each other, holding our different experiences with care, and letting ourselves be shaped by the wisdom that emerges when we gather. We grow through listening, sharing, and remembering that we’re not doing any of this alone.

Approximate Timeline:

• Doors Open - 7 PM

• 7-7:30 - Arrive, get your name tags, say hi, place your drinks/snacks on the table

• 7:30-9 - Group discussion

• 9-10 - Mingle and socialize (and help us clean up the space ;))

We kindly ask for a $10 donation to help us cover the room rental and contribute to our snack budget. If you can't afford it, come anyway! Feel free to bring a little treat or beverage to share if you feel inclined. We try to have a few snacks available, but more is always welcome.

PLEASE NOTE: This meetup is about creating a safe space for sharing ideas and experiences and having productive and compassionate discussions with old and new friends. It is not a cruising or pickup event, so please do not come with those expectations or intentions as they can make folks uncomfortable and feel unsafe. Help us keep this a safe and supportive space!

Our group values ethics, inclusion, growth and compassion as a means to support each of our unique journeys in developing non-traditional relationships. Please be prepared to bring those values, along with an awareness of the fundamental importance of consent and a respect for all others if you attend our events.

We look forward to welcoming everyone interested or curious about non-monogamy and polyamory :) See you at the Brooklyn Society for Ethical Culture (269 4th Avenue, between Garfield and 1st Street)!

In community,

Clara & Marco