Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy

Private Venue
Oakland
Tuesday, Aug 4th
7 PM - 9:30 PM PDT
Organized by TurnON.love

Do you ever feel stuck in cycles of miscommunication, emotional overwhelm, or shutdown when trying to connect? Do you find it difficult to share your own feelings or know how to respond when someone shares theirs? Many of these challenges are common in neurodivergent relationships and can be especially difficult when catastrophizing, shame spirals, or rejection sensitivity take over.

In this experiential workshop, TurnON.love intimacy coaches Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke will share practical tools for navigating these dynamics with clarity, compassion, and collaboration to support autistic and ADHD individuals and their partners in building more resilient, fulfilling relationships.

We’ll explore:

Ways core neurodivergent experiences, including alexithymia, decision fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, and masking can affect intimacy and trust
How to recognize and interrupt patterns like catastrophizing, shame spirals, and rejection sensitivity before they escalate
Practical skills to feel rather than overanalyze emotions in an embodied way, moving through them without getting stuck
Strategies to initiate and engage in challenging conversations without avoidance or overwhelm
Tools to support one another’s regulation while maintaining connection to your own authentic feelings

Whether you’re currently partnered or preparing for future relationships, you’ll leave with actionable tools to reduce conflict, deepen trust, and honor the unique ways your brains work best together.

Note: This workshop is part of a three-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function on July 28th and Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy on August 11th — recommended (but not required) companions to this workshop.

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Reviews

“Dr. Aly’s compassion and confidence puts rooms of strangers at ease, even while her workshops take you boldly to the most intimate of places. With her expert knowledge, personal skills and creative approaches, she is a gifted facilitator and guide.”- J.W.

“I've taken two workshops led by Dr. Aly. Each has been captivating, informative, interactive, and fun. She has given us the tools and confidence to explore previously uncharted territory and forge a deeper connection. Nearly a year later, we are still referencing the invaluable resources from her class.” - J.D

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. He has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. Sebastian has developed a wide range of specialized skills to support neurodivergent clients to feel more confident and comfortable navigating intimacy, including helping them to feel and express emotion and self-regulate in meaningful ways, enhance their communication skills, and explore embodied sex-positive pleasure.

They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is accessible. There are no stairs and the bathroom is wheelchair accessible.

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Upcoming Events

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How to Eat Pussy like a Champ - July 19th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

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Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function - July 28th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Many neurodivergent individuals and mixed neurotype couples struggle with executive function differences, including how to plan, prioritize, and manage our to-do lists. These difficulties can create stress, conflict, and challenges with initiation and completion, We offer practical strategies to work with neurological differences instead of against them. Designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their loved ones.

Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy - August 4th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Learn how core neurodivergent experiences, including alexithymia, decision fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, and masking impact intimacy. Learn strategies to interrupt reactive patterns, feel emotions without overanalyzing, communicate through conflict, and support regulation while staying authentic. Leave with tools to reduce conflict and deepen trust. Ideal for autistic and ADHD individuals and their partners.

Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy - August 11th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Does sex lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Explore how to communicate sensory needs, manage distraction, regulate arousal, and create novelty while maintaining connection. Leave with a personalized intimacy user manual, plus communication and regulation strategies to feel grounded, connected, and empowered. Designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their lovers.