Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy

Private Venue
Oakland
Tuesday, Aug 11th
7 PM - 9:30 PM PDT
Organized by TurnON.love

Do you feel anxious about getting intimate because it might lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Do you find it difficult to stay focused or maintain arousal due to racing thoughts or external distractions? Many neurodivergent folks struggle with aspects of dating and intimacy that rely on social norms, sensory regulation, and attention management. These challenges can lead to frustrating encounters in the bedroom in moments meant to feel intimate and pleasurable.

TurnON.love intimacy coaches Dr. Alison Ash and Sebastian Clarke offer concrete tools and language to navigate these dynamics with more compassion, confidence, and collaboration. Designed for single or partnered autistic and ADHD folks as well as their partners.

In this experiential workshop, we’ll cover:

How to initiate convos about sensory needs and and explore preferences around touch, sound, scent, and space
Strategies for navigating attention, distraction, and arousal regulation during sex
Skills for creating novelty and spontaneity, redirecting unwanted touch, and ending encounters while maintaining connection
Ways neurotypical partners can better support their neurodivergent loved ones and how to co-create alignment around differing needs and desires.
How to create a personalized user manual to help orient yourself and others to your needs and preferences.

You'll leave with communication skills and regulation strategies you can use to feel more grounded, connected, and empowered in dating and intimacy whether partnered or preparing for future connections.

Note: This workshop is part of a three-part series. We also invite you to join Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function on July 28th and Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy on August 4th — recommended (but not required) companions to this workshop.

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Reviews

“Creating my user manual was one of the most affirming parts of the workshop. Instead of feeling picky or difficult, I finally saw my needs written down as valid info about how my body and brain work. I feel proud of my preferences rather than embarrassed and I'm excited to share my user manual with future partners. It feels like a roadmap I didn’t know I was allowed to have.” - F.C.

"I appreciated that Dr. Aly and Seb really normalized neurodivergent experiences rather than framing it as a problem to fix. The focus on sensory preferences and arousal regulation helped me understand why I’ve struggled in past relationships and gave me strategies to manage distraction and overstimulation. The exercises were incredibly practical." - D.W.

"We had a good time at this workshop and really appreciated how much it helped us find language to name the challenges we each have around being intimate. My partner was able to share their experience when I start to get distracted and I was able to identify clear strategies I will be able to try out going forward. We will be recommending this workshop to our friends for sure." -B.B.

"I wish I had this information decades ago since it would have saved me so much struggle and confusion. I always thought I was just too needy and sensitive and that the answer was to endure or toughen up. Now I know I can share my sensory sensitivities around sex in easy and clear ways and I’m honestly so excited to try out some of these new skills!" -Z.F.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed sex and intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them.

Dr. Aly is teaming up with her husband and intimacy coach, Sebastian Clarke. He has more than a decade of experience working with neurodivergent folks, supporting them to increase their capacity for healthy relating. Sebastian has developed a wide range of specialized skills to support neurodivergent clients to feel more confident and comfortable navigating intimacy, including helping them to feel and express emotion and self-regulate in meaningful ways, enhance their communication skills, and explore embodied sex-positive pleasure.

They invite you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is accessible. There are no stairs and the bathroom is wheelchair accessible.

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Upcoming Events

The Secrets of Passion, Romance, and Dominance - July 14th in Oakland

Discover how to use both words and touch to create passionate, romantic, and dominant sexual encounters! Master romantic affirmations, passionate dirty talk, and dominant commands. Explore how to seduce with a wide array of tantalizing and exhilarating touch techniques. Learn how to make your lover surrender by spanking, hair pulling, and pinning them against the wall. You'll leave feeling more confident how fulfilling it can be to have more variety in your sex life and make their fantasies come true!

How to Eat Pussy like a Champ - July 19th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Discover the 5 central tenets to champ-quality pussy eating and receiving. You’ll learn about nerve pathways and the different kinds of orgasms possible, plus science-based techniques for exploring them. Gain tools to get out of your head, overcome awkwardness, explore preferences, give and elicit feedback, and maximize pleasure from giving and receiving. Explore a wide range of ways to mix it up, including different hand and oral techniques, positions, and toys. Participants will receive a Guide to My Pussy instruction manual to share with lover(s). Plus, there's a thorough live demo so you can see all the skills put into action. Both individuals and couples are welcome!

Neurodiverse Relating & Executive Function - July 28th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Many neurodivergent individuals and mixed neurotype couples struggle with executive function differences, including how to plan, prioritize, and manage our to-do lists. These difficulties can create stress, conflict, and challenges with initiation and completion, We offer practical strategies to work with neurological differences instead of against them. Designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their loved ones.

Neurodiverse Love & Emotional Intimacy - August 4th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Learn how core neurodivergent experiences, including alexithymia, decision fatigue, sensory overload, burnout, and masking impact intimacy. Learn strategies to interrupt reactive patterns, feel emotions without overanalyzing, communicate through conflict, and support regulation while staying authentic. Leave with tools to reduce conflict and deepen trust. Ideal for autistic and ADHD individuals and their partners.

Neurodiverse Pleasure & Sexual Intimacy - August 11th in Oakland or as an on-demand rental

Does sex lead to frustration, disappointment, or overwhelm? Explore how to communicate sensory needs, manage distraction, regulate arousal, and create novelty while maintaining connection. Leave with a personalized intimacy user manual, plus communication and regulation strategies to feel grounded, connected, and empowered. Designed for autistic and ADHD adults, single or partnered, and their lovers.