Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver - November Event

Welcome to the Non-Monogamy Discussion Group Vancouver! We will be meeting the THIRD Monday of the month at Cross and Crows Books . Bring your ideas, questions and opinions!

November Topic: Loving Others Without Losing Ourselves

Being in non-monogamous relationships can mean making a lot of room for other people. We want to be understanding and make our partners happy. But sometimes in trying to be a good non-monogamous person we can lose track of our own needs. This month we're talking about how self-abandonment and people pleasing can show up in our relationships.

Some things we may talk about:

-How do you recognize when you're abandoning your own needs?

-How do you make room for your own needs alongside the needs of your partners and metamours?

-How do you get comfortable being honest about what you want even when it might disappoint someone?

Whether you're working on finding that balance in your relationships or have learned a few things along the way this is a space to share experiences and learn from each other.

The Specifics:

Date: Nov. 16, 2026

Time: 7:00pm - 9:00pm

(Doors open at 7pm for this event and we start the discussion at 7:30pm)

Where: Cross and Crows Books - 2836 Commercial Drive

Cost: by donation ($2-5) or shopping at the bookstore! This covers our rental fee.

Who can attend: Those who practice non-monogamy or are curious about it - We ask that if you engage in our space that your partners have knowledge of your practice or interest.

Health/Safety: Please do not attend if you are sick (even if it's not covid). I will bring my air filter for the space. Stay vaccinated. Please leave your perfumes/body spray at home.

We will be continuing the no mandatory masks for 2026 . See pinned post in the feature section of the group.

Accessibility: Technically a wheelchair accessible entrance (has a slope) but not a washroom. Semi low stim - you can hear the sky train pass. The book store is closed to the public but staff are there so event attendees can shop. Variety of chair styles/sizes available.

What to expect during this event

7:00pm - Door open - show up anytime between 7pm and 7:30pm to find yourself a chair, browse the book store (you can shop) and settle in.

7:30pm - Discussion begins

-Read the Norms

-Introductions & Ice Breaker question.

-Topic - Loving others without losing ourselves

10 min break

-Announcements & Discussion cont.

9pm Wrap-up - check out at the bookstore or order a book for pick up.

9:10pm You don’t have to go home but you can’t stay here.