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Join us for an afternoon of fun, pleasure, and play!

Everyone's orgasm has a story... And chances are, someone else wrote it.

That version goes like something this: Your partner makes you come, or they don't, and if they don't, someone is failing...

Maybe you're too difficult.

Maybe they're not trying hard enough.

Maybe something is just wrong with me!

That story is doing a lot of damage, and this workshop is here to burn it down!

Your orgasm was never theirs to give. It was always yours.

In the first half of this workshop, we're going to get into the good stuff: why masturbation is one of the most underrated skills you can develop, how to stop chasing the finish line and start actually feeling what's happening in your body, and how to take ownership of your pleasure. Not just your solo sex life but every sexual experience you have.

And then we're going to get specific. Because "touch yourself more" is not a technique. We'll cover several approaches to solo stimulation that most people have never tried, including:

• Edging, teasing, and denial with intention: not just as a delay tactic, but as a way to train your body to feel more.
• Pleasure Without a Destination... Let's move away from the notion that orgasms mark the finale at the fireworks show and instead concentrate on what feels pleasurable.
• Toys, Tools, and the Gospel of Lube... getting off is hard work! Let's find ways to simplify, including ergonomic implementations for all body types and abilities.
• Setting the Scene... is it just us, or is kitchen sex also H-O-T to you?
• Mutual Masturbation: show what you like, and enjoy solo masturbation pleasures together, or bring the wisdom of solo sex into partner sex by getting comfortable touching yourself exactly when and how you like it!
• and more...

After class, stay and play (with yourself!)

You'll have space, time, and a room full of people doing exactly what you're about to do, which turns out to be its own kind of hot.

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Class 3-4:30pm

Solo Play Party 4:30-6:30pm

Doors close promptly at 3:30 to create a safer and more comfortable environment for everyone.

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What to bring:

• Something to take notes with
• Any toys, props, or tools you like to play with, and your own lube if you have a preference for type. We will have water-based lube on hand. Please note: bring a towel or waterproof cover if you'll be using any silicone or oil-based lube.
• An open mind and a willingness to get a little uncomfortable in the best possible way
• (Partners welcome to attend together, but this is not going to be a partner sex play party)

You've always had everything you need. Come find the pleasure at your fingertips, or whatever sources your pleasure!

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Play Party Guidelines & Rules (MUST READ):

Absolutely no photography during the play party portion of the event.

Solo only. You are here to play with yourself, full stop. There is no obligation to negotiate with any other attendees during this event. This includes anyone you came with. Even if you attended with a partner, this is your time to explore your own body. No shared play, no fluid exchange, no sharing toys, no kissing. Watching with consent allowed only. This container is what makes the space work.

Connection is welcome. You are absolutely welcome to talk, flirt, make eye contact, and enjoy the energy in the room. If you meet someone you'd like to play with in the future, exchange contact info and make a plan for another time.

Consent to presence. By entering the play space, you are consenting to being in a room where others are engaging in sexual activity. Unsolicited comments, touching, or intrusion into someone's space is not permitted.

Phones away during play. No photos or videos of other attendees.

Check in with yourself. If something doesn't feel right, you can step out at any time. Staff will be available if you need support.

Watching/Spectating is only allowed with express consent. If someone is lurking, hovering, or watching without first asking for consent, or is not actively participating in the solo play container, please report it to a dungeon monitor or staff member immediately. We take this seriously and will ask anyone violating this policy to leave.

This play party is centered on Gender and Cultural Equity by welcoming all QTBIPOC: Queer/Gay/Lesbian, Transgender, and Black, Indigenous identities. We request that you attend with someone by using the pal system (friend, lover, metamour). We will be prioritizing People of Color and their allies. We want this event to be as welcoming as possible.

If you do not plan to actively participate in solo masturbation, you must leave the venue after the class portion concludes.

We have on-site staff and dungeon monitors to help maintain a safer space for everyone.

If you'll be using silicone or oil-based lubricants, please bring your own rubber sheets or protective barriers (such as waterproof throws/blankets/puppy pads). Silicone and oil-based products can permanently damage upholstery, so it is required to keep our space and equipment in good condition for everyone.

ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT is required for all touch and play at this event. It must be freely given, revocable, informed, engaged, and specific (FRIES).

Examples of enthusiastic consent:

"Can I give you a hug?" → "Yes! I'd love that!"

"Want to try (blank) together?" → "Absolutely, I've been wanting to try that!"

Examples of Non-Enthusiastic (or Absent/Unclear) Consent:

"Can I hug you?" → "...sure, I guess."

"Are you okay to continue?" → "Mmm, whatever."

If you are uncertain whether enthusiastic consent has been given, treat that uncertainty as your answer. Consent has not been given.

It is always appropriate to pause and check in. You might say something like:

"How would you feel about taking a short break?"

"I want to make sure we're both fully on board... Can we pause for a moment?"

"I wasn't completely certain that was a full yes, so I'd like to stop and check in with you."

Pausing is never the wrong choice. It demonstrates care, self-awareness, and respect for everyone involved and creates space for an honest, comfortable conversation.

- Do not assume anyone's presence implies availability.

- Negotiate all scenes in advance. No up-negotiation during play.

- Be mindful of those in active scenes or aftercare. Do not interrupt, crowd, or hover.

- Wipe down any surfaces with disinfectant or degreaser where fluid/lube contact may have occurred. We will have cavicide for disinfecting and isopropyl alcohol for lube degreasing.

Thank you for helping us protect and preserve this space for our community.

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About the presenters:

Nika Cherrelle is the owner of The House of Cherrelle, Designer of Trigger Happy Toys, Co-founder of the International Institute for Sexual Empowerment and a Pleasure & Intimacy coach. They empower and inspire people across all cultural backgrounds; by breaking down taboo, to create a world where all people feel loved, honored and respected. Their work has been featured with The San Francisco AIDS Foundation, SOMArts Cultural Center, and in Math Magazine, Bitch Media, Slate, Cosmopolitan Magazine and Women’s Health Magazine. Learn more about her work here.

Carol Queen PhD is staff sexologist at Good Vibes (where she helped brainstorm and found National Masturabtion Month in 19905) and the co-founder of the Center for Sex & Culture, where she and her partner Dr. Robert Morgan Lawrence founded the Live Masturbate-a-Thons to add to the Masturbation Month celebrations. She's the author or editor of multiple books, from Exhibitionism for the Shy to The Sex & Pleasure Book: Good Vibrations Guide to Great Sex for Everyone.

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KINK STORE EVENT CODE OF CONDUCT - By purchasing your ticket(s), you agree to comply with the entire CoC:

Golden Rules

Treat one another with kindness and respect.

Leave the space better than you found it.

Consent

Consent is required for all touch and play at this event. It must be freely given, revocable, informed, engaged, and specific (FRIES).

• Never touch anyone without permission.
• Negotiate all scenes in advance. No up-negotiation during play.
• Do not assume anyone's presence implies availability.
• Do not join or interrupt a scene without invitation.
• If someone asks to be left alone, respect that immediately.
• Obtain explicit consent before photographing or involving others in your scenes.

Privacy and Discretion

What happens here stays here. Treat all information about attendees and activities as confidential. Do not "out" anyone regarding their identity, orientation, kinks, or attendance.

Community Care

Don't yuck someone's yum. This means respecting that others may have different kinks, interests, and ways of expressing themselves. What isn't your thing may be someone else's joy. Keep negative reactions, comments, or judgments about others' consensual interests to yourself. This is an LGBTQIA+ and BIPOC-inclusive space. Everyone is expected to show up with respect and care for others. We maintain a zero-tolerance policy for:

• Discrimination or bias based on race, gender, sexuality, disability, or body size.
• Harassment, intimidation, coercion, bullying, or unwanted advances.
• Non-consensual behavior of any kind.
• Misgendering, deadnaming, or invalidating anyone's identity.

Intoxicants & Altered States

We do not sell or serve alcohol at this venue.

We recognize that substances affect capacity to consent, and we prioritize everyone's safety. If you appear unable to give or receive clear consent, a host may check in with you privately. Continued concern may result in being asked to pause play or step outside. This is never a punishment, but a community care measure. Our priority is keeping everyone safe and able to enjoy the space.

Health and Hygiene

• Please stay home if you are feeling sick or experiencing symptoms.
• Be scent-aware: avoid heavy perfumes, colognes, or strongly scented products.
• Be thoughtful and considerate of all bodily odors when attending and throughout events. Come prepared, as personal hygiene is your responsibility. If you need basic hygiene supplies, please ask a host.
• Respect others' disclosed allergies or sensitivities.

Respect the Space

Treat staff, hosts, and the venue with care and courtesy. Return any equipment to its proper place and report any damage or safety concerns to a host immediately.

• Wipe down any surfaces where fluid contact may have occurred.
• If you need cleaning or disinfecting supplies, please ask a host.

Scenes and Play

• Be mindful of those in active scenes or aftercare. Do not interrupt, crowd, or hover.
• Respect established play areas, furniture, and equipment; ask a host before using anything unfamiliar.
• Any play considered edge play must be disclosed in advance to event hosts. This includes rope suspension, any form of breath restriction, electrical play, and similar high-risk activities.
• Allow adequate space between scenes and bystanders.

Safewords

Agree on safewords before any play begins.

• "Red" or "Safeword" will immediately stop a scene. Alert hosts if necessary.
• "Yellow" (or equivalent) indicates a limit or request to reduce intensity.
• If verbal safewords are not possible, establish a clear nonverbal signal in advance. For example, three deliberate head shakes as a "no" signal, or dropping a held object.
• Honoring a safeword is non-negotiable. Ignoring one is a serious violation.

Safer Sex

• Communicate openly and honestly about STI status when relevant.
• Safer sex supplies will be available when needed.
• Respect others' safer sex boundaries and practices without question or pressure.

Safety Monitors & Dungeon Monitors

Dungeon Monitors (DMs) and hosts are here to support safety and consent. They have final say and may stop any scene. Please:

• Inform DMs or hosts in advance of any edge or atypical play.
• Follow their instructions promptly and without argument.
• Seek them out immediately if you witness any consent violation.
• Be patient; they may be attending to another matter.

Phones and Photography

No photography, video, or audio recording is permitted unless explicitly stated otherwise for a specific event. Keep your phone stored and screens dimmed in play areas. Violations of this policy are taken extremely seriously.

Aftercare

Aftercare is a vital part of responsible BDSM play. Check in with your play partners following a scene. Be mindful that aftercare needs vary; some may need space, others physical comfort, or time to decompress. Hosts may have a designated aftercare area or resources available. Please ask if you need support.

Newcomers & First-Timers

We welcome people who are new to events like this. If you're unsure about anything, ask a host. No question is too basic. We encourage experienced community members to be patient and welcoming mentors, not gatekeepers.

Concerns and Reporting

If you witness or experience a consent violation or safety concern, please speak with a host or event representative immediately. All reports will be handled with discretion and taken seriously. You will be believed and supported. You may also email dusty@kinkstore.com if you wish to remain anonymous. We are committed to accountability and learning.

Consequences for Violations

Violations of this code of conduct may result in:

• A verbal warning from a host or DM.
• Being asked to stop a scene or activity.
• Being asked to leave the event immediately.
• Being banned from future events.

Serious violations involving non-consent will result in immediate removal and may be reported to relevant community networks.

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Accessibility

We are committed to making Kink Store events as accessible and welcoming as possible.

The main floor entrance is wheelchair accessible. There is one step further into the space; a portable ramp is available. Please note that the upstairs loft area is not currently accessible to persons using wheelchairs or mobility devices. Both restrooms are ADA-compliant.

We welcome guests with all access needs and encourage you to reach out in advance so we can do our best to accommodate you. This includes communication access needs such as ASL or kink-friendly interpretation services, which typically require advance booking. Interpreters accompanying a guest are welcome at no additional charge in that capacity.

To request accommodations or ask about access, please contact us at events@kinkstore.com well in advance of the event.