Oakland Non-Monogameetup -- May

IMPORTANT, PLEASE READ:

Our Oakland event is now at DREXL (382 19th St. Oakland, CA 94612). 

Welcome to Oakland's Non-Monogameetup!

We're a non-monogamous gathering which brings together communities from across the Bay Area for an evening of casual connection and mingling.

• No cover or cost to attend. (No ticket or rsvp required)
• There's a patio in the back with both smoking and non-smoking areas
• Come anytime 7:00-10:00pm.
• Your host for this event is Allan! - Look for the cowboy hat 🤠
• Reach us in the chat or by email at: bayareapolyhappyhour@gmail.com

Support your host

Donate via Venmo // Donate via CashApp

Our event is volunteer run and free to attend, but a donation of $5-10 goes a long way towards making events like this possible. Donations helps pay for things like name-tags and markers, and makes it possible to support more community events like this across the Bay Area.

Event Guidelines

• Respectful Behavior toward hosts and guests is required. Anyone who violates these rules may be asked to leave the event.

•No photography, video, or recording of any kind is allowed without prior verbal consent of all parties involved.

•Verbal Consent: Please be sure to ask and wait for a yes before hugging or initiating any physical contact, and encourage each other to speak openly about consent and personal boundaries. This helps foster a culture where personal boundaries are supported and attendees are empowered to speak confidently of their limits. (i.e. “Can I give you a hug?” “No thank you, but I would love a handshake.”)

•Expectations: Our events are about developing friendships and connections within the community. Check your expectations at the door. Being at this event does not signal sexual availability or indicate any aspect of sexual orientation. This is a no cruising event, in order to maintain a comfortable atmosphere for our guests.

*Look Out For One Another: Because our events are open to the public it's important that take extra precautions beyond what may be typical at other events in our community. Watch out for your and others' uncovered drinks, and let a host know if you notice anything that seems suspicious.

**What does "no cruising" mean?**

The no cruising guideline has a lot to do with intentions. Are you coming to this event specifically to go home with a bunch of numbers and dates on the calendar? We'd discourage that. But, are you wanting to come and socialize with other poly people? Great! And does that sometimes naturally lead to dates? Sure does! Just as one might end up dating someone they meet at a running club even though the running club is not specifically set up to be a dating event.

The main thing behind the guideline is preventing it from feeling like a meat market. This is a social event, not a dating event. We want the people who show up to feel comfortable. Having to fight off constant passes can be really uncomfortable, and is not what people come here for.

About Oakland's Non-Monogameetup:

We welcome all the non-monogamous, poly-curious, relationship anarchists, queer-of-all-sorts, supportive friends, singles, couples, polycules, et al. to help us create a safe space for all orientations and all kink and gender identities. To this end, please don’t yuck someone else’s yum and practice enthusiastic consent [ask before initiating any physical contact (even a hug) and feel empowered to respond, "no thank you" to asks from others]

The Oakland Non-Monogameetup together Bay Area non-monogamous communities, as well as those who are new or just thinking about exploring, for an afternoon of mingling, friend-making and catching up.

No cover or cost to attend, but drinks are available to order. - If you're able, please support the folks at DREXL who make this event possible. (buy drinks, tip big)

About DREXL:

DREXL is located in Downtown Oakland at 382 19th St. 

DREXL is located near the 19th St. Bart station and is in an area with plenty of parking. Please don't leave anything visable in your car when parking in this neighborhood. 

The bar has a back patio with a designated area for smoking. Please be contentious of any attendees with sensitivities to smoking.

DREXL does not serve food, but there are plenty of spots to grab a bite in the neighborhood

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We’re partnering with our friends at Bloom to help people connect before & after our events! Match, chat, and meet people before you go!