Receiving Service Well: Is This Meaningful to You?

with Aidan Sunassee

a live and recorded online class from Wicked Grounds

9/19 11am Pacific

Most conversations about service focus on what a submissive is willing or eager to offer, which is lovely. However, far less attention is given to the Dominant staring at a lovingly presented act of service and thinking, with genuine affection, “I appreciate this very much, and I have absolutely no idea what to do with it.”

This class is for anyone who wants to better understand what service actually means to them. We will discuss different forms of service, how to identify what you genuinely enjoy receiving, how to communicate preferences and standards clearly, and how service-oriented submissives can better understand what makes an act feel meaningful to the person receiving it. Sometimes that means completing a task in the quickest or most practical way. Sometimes it means doing it in a very odd and particular way because that is what the Dominant enjoys, values, or has asked for.

It may be easy to say that service well done is service wanted, but what does that actually mean in practice? What happens when efficiency and preference point in different directions? The goal is for you to leave with practical tools for building service dynamics with less hopeful guesswork and far fewer beautifully polished things nobody really asked for.

PRESENTER:

Aidan Sunassee (he/him) is a certified sexologist, educator, researcher, and active member of the kink community. His facilitation style is trauma-aware, grounded in inclusive practices, and informed by both personal experience and academic research. He is dedicated to bridging the gap between academic knowledge and lived experience, creating spaces where community voices are centered, respected, and empowered. Aidan is affiliated with the APA Division 44 Taskforce on Kink and BDSM, serves on the board and research team of TASHRA, and teaches with the Center for Positive Sexuality. His independent research explores how pleasure and power exchange intersect with healing in kink spaces and dynamics. Beyond his research, he has developed and led community education programs on kink, consent, trauma awareness, and ethical non-monogamy.

At the core of his approach is a belief that academic knowledge and lived truth must meet and challenge each other.

ACCESS:

This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and is available for later viewing within seven days of the class.

Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.