San Diego Young but Kinky Speed Friending

🎭 YBK Masquerade Speed Friending Party 🎭

💜 Connect with Your Kinky Community!

Looking to make genuine connections in the local BDSM and kink community? ✨

This is not your average social event—it is Speed Friending for kinksters! 🫶 Young But Kinky is creating a welcoming, low-pressure, and vetted environment where attendees can meet like-minded people, build friendships, and become more connected to the community.

The main event of the evening is Speed Friending, with additional games, social activities, and an optional taster table to keep the night fun and interactive! 🎲💬

Whether you are looking for friendship, community, future event buddies, or people who share similar interests, this is a playful way to expand your social circle. 💜

📅 Event Details

Date: Saturday, September 5, 2026

Location: 📍 Private San Diego location sent to registered attendees by email

Theme: 🎭 Masquerade

Dress Code: ✨ Classy, fun, and date-night inspired—no flip-flops!

Lace masquerade masks will be available, or you are welcome to bring your own. 🖤🎭

🔒 Attendance and Vetting Requirements

This event is open to:

✅ Vetted YBK members between the ages of 21 and 39

✅ Guests attending with an approved, vetted YBK member

✅ Attendees who have completed a YBK Munch or YBK 101

✅ Individuals personally approved by Princess Nina through another recognized event

Limited exceptions may be available for established YBK members who recently turned 40. Approval must be received from the organizer before purchasing a ticket. 💌

🪪 Your government-issued ID must match the name used for your ticket registration. You must show both your ID and ticket on your phone during check-in.

🕖 Schedule

🎲 7:00 PM — Mixer, Games and Social Activities

Arrive, check in, grab a masquerade mask, and mingle before the main activity begins! 🎭🥳

We will have games and conversation activities available to help everyone relax and start connecting. 💬✨

📣 8:00 PM — Announcements and Consent Refresher

Before Speed Friending begins, we will review consent, boundaries, privacy, and respectful community behavior. 🫶🔐

🚦 Remember:

Only an enthusiastic “yes” means yes.

“No,” “maybe,” hesitation, or silence are not consent.

💬 Speed Friending Begins!

The main event will include a series of short, structured conversations. The length of each round will depend on the number of attendees. ⏳

We will provide:

💭 Conversation prompts

📝 Note cards

🎯 Connection activities

🤝 Opportunities to meet everyone in the rotation

Please do not skip tables or exclude another attendee. Everyone deserves an opportunity to participate and feel welcomed. 💜

This activity is friendship-focused, but you may naturally meet people with similar interests for future social events, classes, friendships, or negotiated play. ✨

🖤 Optional Taster Table

We will have an optional k i n k taster table hosted by experienced community members.

The table will offer opportunities to:

🧰 Learn about different tools or activities

❓ Ask questions in a respectful environment

👀 Observe demonstrations

🤝 Participate in supervised tasters with clear consent and negotiation

Participation is always optional. Watching, asking questions, or choosing not to participate are all completely welcome. 💜

🎲 Games, Activities and Social Bingo

After Speed Friending, stay for more socializing, games, and activities! 🎉

We will also have Social Bingo, with small prizes available for attendees who complete or black out their cards. 🏆🎁

Music will play during the general social portions of the evening, but it will be lowered or paused during Speed Friending so everyone can communicate comfortably. 🎶💬

🌈 Community Expectations

All identities, genders, orientations, and relationship styles are welcome, including LGBTQIA+, polyamorous, ethically non-monogamous, and monogamous attendees. Everyone must have a genuine personal interest in B D S M, k i n k, or f e t i s h. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💜

🚫 This is not a hookup, swinging, or sex event. The purpose is to build genuine friendships and community connections.

Please respect everyone’s privacy. 🔐 Do not pressure people to share personal information such as their:

🪪 Legal name

💼 Workplace

🏠 Home address

📱 Personal phone number

📲 Social media accounts

Scene names and chosen names are welcome. When exchanging contact information, consider using FetLife, Discord, email, a secondary number, or another platform that feels comfortable. Nobody is required to exchange contact information. 💌

🍿 Food and Drinks

Light snacks will be provided. Food and snack donations are appreciated! 🍪🥨

🍷 This event is BYOB for beverages that are 25% ABV or under.

🚫 No hard alcohol and no heavy drinking.

Anyone who appears intoxicated or unable to participate safely may be asked to leave and arrange a rideshare home. 🚗

⚠️ Important Rules

🔞 Strictly ages 21–39, except for limited organizer-approved established members who recently turned 40

🚫 No illegal drugs

🚬 Nicotine use is permitted only in the designated outdoor smoking area

🛑 No harassment, outing, discrimination, or boundary violations

🙅 No pressure to participate in tasters, activities, or contact exchanges

✅ Respect all consent decisions immediately

🚷 Violations may result in removal from the event and suspension or permanent banning from YBK