Shame Lab

This is a playful experiment exploring the sexual fantasies and desires we might normally keep hidden—the ones that bring up shame, embarrassment, curiosity, or a delicious little sense of “I wonder what would happen if…”

It’s also an opportunity to revisit parts of your sexual history for a re-do or re-patterning. Perhaps you want to rediscover pleasure with the innocence you don’t remember having. Maybe you want to rewrite an experience from your early sexual education, or transform a moment of shame into an embodied claiming of pleasure.

With deep permission and a carefully held container, we can venture into places you haven’t yet dared to explore.

Aren’t you curious what could happen?

In this laboratory, we anonymously share some of our most private fantasies and scenarios—things we’ve experienced, things we imagine, and perhaps things we’ve never said out loud.

From there, you have the opportunity to explore them through role-play, witnessing, or simply being present while others bring a scenario to life. You choose how you participate.

Think Family Constellations meets ISTA Temple, with room for curiosity, play, expression, and discovery.

Shame and embarrassment are welcomed rather than judged. We create a space where what feels taboo, awkward, or difficult to speak about can be witnessed with compassion, curiosity, and care.

And sometimes, when we give ourselves permission to explore what we’ve kept hidden, something unexpectedly beautiful happens.

If you are unsure if this is the right space for you, please reach out to any one of us!

Facilitators: Alex Akarta (they/he) is a trauma-informed, transformational kink practitioner, certified through the Integrative Arts Institute. They also hold a BFA in psychology from New York University. Blending clinical therapy with shamanic practices and an embrace of sacred eros, Alex specializes in themes including relationship with the body, fear & shame release, growth through vulnerability, shamanic journeying, erotic reclamation & soul retrieval. Through a collaborative healing process, Alex seeks to invite others to liberate the energy of fear, of shame, of guilt, into the energy of life. They can be reached directly at vulnerable.living@protonmail.com or at https://vulnerable.living/

Phil & Justine Leger have studied Sky Dancing Tantra founded by Margot Anand (completed the Love and Ecstasy Training), attended multiple ISTA (International School of Temple Arts) trainings (L1, L2, PT), studied with various schools of Somatic Sex Education, studied BDSM with Om Rupani and others, are active members in their local Kink community, and are also active with The Body Sacred (a sacred sexuality community). Justine is a certified VITA Sex, Love and Relationship Coach. We love inviting people to play with us in the juicy edges of our comfort zone. We can be reached at embracearousal@gmail.com or at https://www.embracearousal.com/.

Fee: $250. This includes event facilitation, food and lodging.

First Timers: Please fill out the questionnaire at the link provided here by copying and pasting into an email, and sending to embracearousal@gmail.com.