STING NYC | An All-Mens Spanking Party

Welcome to STING NYC!

A Spanking Party for Men

STING NYC is a relaxed, men-only spanking party built for men who want space to give, receive, trade, watch, learn, and explore spanking in all its forms.

Whether you are brand new or deeply experienced, STING NYC offers a playful, open environment where men can connect through impact, discipline, technique, erotic tension, and shared desire.

From the sharp snap of a belt to the satisfying smack of a hand, this is a room for men who know that a good spanking can be playful, connective, intense, and deeply satisfying.

There is a separate social lounge area for talking, settling in, aftercare, and connection outside of active play.

This is a self-led spanking and impact play party.

Attendees are responsible for their own choices, negotiations, boundaries, scenes, consent, and aftercare.

The Kink Collective’s MITPISA negotiation forms will be available to support clearer pre-scene conversations, especially for people meeting or negotiating play in the room.

Click here for more details on MITPISA

What to Expect

1 PM | Doors Open

• Arrive, settle in, and get comfortable in the room.
• This is a good time to meet people, ask questions, talk through interests, and begin negotiating any spanking scenes or connections you may want to explore

1:45–2 PM | Welcome + Room Agreeements

• Meet others, go over the house rules, and set the tone before play begins.

If you arrive after this welcome, you are still welcome.

A facilitator will give you the essential room agreements at check-in before you enter the play space

2 PM | Play Room Opens

• The room opens for negotiated spanking, impact, watching, learning, connection, and exploration at your own pace.

6 PM | Party Ends

The Vibe

• A men-only space centered around spanking and impact

• A relaxed, social, and erotic afternoon atmosphere

• 12+ spanking stations and an open layout

• Stations including a St. Andrew’s Cross, spanking bench, kneeling benches, massage tables, and room for creative positioning

• A separate social area for aftercare, downtime, snacks, and conversation

Space to give, receive, trade, watch, learn, and explore spanking with consent and clarity

What to Bring

• Spanking Implements, toys, gear, or comfort items you plan to use.
• lube, Safer-sex supplies, if needed
• A shareable snack or drink is always welcome at the communal snack table
• Alcohol is welcome in moderation only. No illegal drugs.

Meet Your Faciliatator

This event is led by Dan, a member of the spanking community and of The Kink Collective.

Dan brings his passion for spanking and his easygoing style to create a space that feels

safe, playful, and welcoming to all men in attendance.

Location + Entry

Where: The Sanctuary of East Harlem

Address: 113 East 125th Street, New York, NY 10035

Entry Instructions: Enter through the door to the right of Forno on 125th. Look for 113 in the window above.

• Push the door hard to enter.

Accessibility: No elevator. 20 steps total.

Interested in becoming a member?

You do not need to be a member to attend STING NYC.

Members receive discounted Sanctuary Sessions tickets and free access to our weekly online space, Conscious Conversations, for deeper connection and ongoing community. [link here]

A Look at the Sanctuary of East Harlem

Each event is set up to match the energy and purpose of the event. For STING NYC, the space is arranged to support connection, negotiation, and self-led scenes. With 12+ Spanking stations and numerous seating arrangements for OTK. The space transforms into a Spanking good time.

Tickets

$20 Member Ticket, $30 Solo Ticket, $50 Partner Ticket (2 tickets)

🎟 Purchase Your Advance Tickets Here

Interested in becoming a member?

You do not need to be a member to attend STING NYC.

Members receive discounted Sanctuary Sessions tickets and free access to our weekly online space, Conscious Conversations, for deeper connection and ongoing community. [link here]

STING Terms Explained

Spanking and BDSM Language you have heard but not fully understood can be defined below:

• Scene: An agreed-upon exchange between people, discussed ahead of time with clear boundaries, consent, expectations, and aftercare.

• Negotiation: The conversation before play where people talk through interests, limits, roles, safety needs, intensity, and aftercare.

• Boundaries: The personal limits and needs someone communicates before or during play, including what is welcome, what is not, and what must stop if crossed.

• MITPISA: The Kink Collective’s consent and negotiation framework, designed to help people talk through interests, boundaries, safety needs, intensity, and aftercare before play begins.

• Spanking: Consensual impact play focused on striking the body, often with hands, paddles, belts, straps, or other agreed-upon implements.

• Impact play: Consensual play involving sensation or force on the body, often through hands, floggers, paddles, canes, belts, straps, or other agreed-upon implements.

• Discipline: A style of play that may involve structure, correction, rules, or consequences as part of a negotiated scene or dynamic.

• Pickup play: Play negotiated with someone you meet at the event. All pickup play should be clearly discussed and agreed to before anything begins.

• Aftercare: The care, grounding, rest, or connection someone may need after play to help their body and emotions settle.