Sustainable Dominance: Managing Capacity in Long-Term Leadership

with Aidan Sunassee

a live and recorded online class from Wicked Grounds

8/15 11am Pacific

Long-term dominance asks a great deal of a person. While maintaining a dynamic is a shared responsibility, many Doms choose to carry a significant share of the structure, planning, co-regulation, and day-to-day care that keeps it running. Over time, that responsibility can become exhausting, particularly if they feel expected to remain endlessly capable, composed, and available.

This class focuses on the emotional and practical work of sustaining authority over time, without falling into the dreaded pit of burnout. We will discuss decision fatigue, Dom drop, resentment, inconsistent capacity, unrealistic expectations, and the pressure to be “the stable one” through every demand life places upon you and yours.

You will learn ways to communicate boundaries and capacity clearly, receive support, and build systems that involve submissive partners in maintaining the relationship they are also part of. If you're a D-type who loves holding responsibility (perhaps a little too much), an s-type who wants to learn more about D-type burnout, or anywhere in between, this is the class for you!

PRESENTER:

Aidan Sunassee (he/him) is a certified sexologist, educator, researcher, and active member of the kink community. His facilitation style is trauma-aware, grounded in inclusive practices, and informed by both personal experience and academic research. He is dedicated to bridging the gap between academic knowledge and lived experience, creating spaces where community voices are centered, respected, and empowered. Aidan is affiliated with the APA Division 44 Taskforce on Kink and BDSM, serves on the board and research team of TASHRA, and teaches with the Center for Positive Sexuality. His independent research explores how pleasure and power exchange intersect with healing in kink spaces and dynamics. Beyond his research, he has developed and led community education programs on kink, consent, trauma awareness, and ethical non-monogamy.

At the core of his approach is a belief that academic knowledge and lived truth must meet and challenge each other.

ACCESS:

This will be a live, online class offered through Zoom. To participate, you may need to download the free, basic version of the Zoom app before the class! This class will be recorded and is available for later viewing within seven days of the class.

Zoom now provides closed captioning which will be available for this event.