The Art of Kissing

A makeout workshop for curious adults

Everyone remembers a great kiss.

But what actually makes one unforgettable?

Is it technique? Timing? Tension? Eye contact? Confidence? Novelty? The way someone lingers just a second longer than you expected?

In this playful, research-backed workshop, we'll explore the psychology, science, and artistry of kissing. You'll discover what research tells us about why we kiss, how kissing shapes attraction and attachment, and why one kiss can leave you thinking about someone for weeks while another is instantly forgettable.

Throughout the evening, we'll experiment with different styles of kissing through guided exercises designed to build awareness, anticipation, communication, and chemistry. We'll explore everything from teasing and playful kisses to slow, passionate, affectionate, and cinematic kisses—all at your own comfort level.

Come with someone you'd love to kiss. Bring a partner, a date, a friend with benefits, or someone you've been looking for an excuse to get closer to.

Throughout the evening, you'll have the opportunity to practice everything you learn together. As the event progresses, there will also be optional opportunities to kiss other participants for those who are interested.

Before any partner switching takes place, we'll guide a structured conversation about boundaries, comfort levels, and desires. You'll discuss questions like:

• Would you like to explore only with each other tonight?
• Are you open to kissing others together?
• Would you prefer to sit out certain exercises?

There is absolutely no expectation to switch partners. Many people choose to stay with the person they arrived with, while others enjoy exploring different chemistry and kissing styles with new people. Every interaction is based on enthusiastic consent, and you can change your mind at any point.

Host Bio

Niki Davis-Fainbloom (she/her) is a Canadian-born, New York–based sex educator, researcher, author, and coach. Her work combines up-to-date research, humor, and practical tools to help people build healthier, more satisfying relationships. Since earning her master's degree from New York University, she has facilitated more than 500 sexuality education workshops at organizations including Planned Parenthood, New York University, and the United Nations. Her writing has been featured in MindBodyGreen, Cosmopolitan, and Insider, and her forthcoming book, Fetish: Smash Taboos and Celebrate What Turns You On (Hachette/Balance), explores the psychology, science, and culture of human desire while helping readers approach fetishes with curiosity rather than shame. Find her on Instagram @missbloomsexeducator.

✨Location: Lower Manhattan. The space has an elevator. Please email hello@hitmeupnyc.com if you need any accessibility accommodations.

✨Full vaccination against Covid 19 is required. While we recommend getting the booster shots, we are not verifying them at this time.

✨Consent Policy: This is an ASK FIRST event and the rules of respectful and consensual behavior WILL be enforced. You will be responsible for reading the policy and behaving appropriately. Please click here to read our consent policy in full.

✨Membership: This event is open to the public. We reserve the right to refuse entry if needed.

Hit Me Up also hosts private events which are invite only, and anyone new to Hit Me Up must apply and be approved to attend—no guests or plus ones. You are welcome to inquire at the event about how to join our community. Building special spaces is hard, and while we are inclusive and welcoming, we reserve the right to curate our membership as needed to maintain our flourishing community.