The Feels WKNDR SF 2026

A 2-day workshop meets…cute!?

// about \\

We have spent 4 years at the frontlines of modern dating: researching, writing, hosting, coaching, matchmaking, studying, conversing, facilitating, guiding.

From time spent, we have concluded that modern dating is broken.

Further - we believe that technology + relating do not go together; AI-driven dating apps are coming for you, and we want to stop them.

To do that, we seek to rewire how we’re pairing off, how we’re showing up for each other, and we teach new tools for staying nervous system regulated.

It goes without saying that if any of this resonates, we’d really like to host you for a 2 day event that will:

• Help you better understand the current modern dating landscape + how we arrived into this moment, so you can see its not your fault;
• Guide you into being more connected to your own inner systems of knowing - thoughts, emotions, body, inner wisdom/intuition;
• Give you real-life tools for better meets + better dates + more vulnerable connects;
• Send you out on a date w a fellow participant to practice new tools in real time;
• Drop you into embodied connection w your fellow participants, to imprint into your body what safe connection feels like;
• Leave you with a crew of ppl who feel like your people.

//curriculum\\

We will shift between instructional / didactic learning, and real-time experiential learning via 1:1 + group embodiment activities.

Day 1 topics will include:

• Collectivism vs individualism + the effect on your dating life;
• The Evo Psych narrative + dropping agenda;
• Technology’s role in corroding healthy human connection;
• Wounds, shadows, armouring + how they show up in dating;
• Projection + transference;
• Somatics 101;
• The nervous system: down regulation + co-regulation.

Day 2 topics will include:

• Patterning + how to map new neural pathways;
• Attachment 101;
• RBDSM-A + the diff bt the erotic + sexual;
• Boundaries, consent + healthy touch;
• Cultivating attunement;
• The ‘why’ of slow dating;
• On community + what it is + is not.

//some things to know\\

• We will be providing lunch both days;
• Payments are non refundable, but transferable;
• The Fold is ADA accessible;
• Street parking is available;
• We work hard to ensure balance when it comes to gender;
• Pair’d work will be oriented towards M/F pairs;
• You must be 21+ to attend;
• We gently suggest 60 or under as an age guideline;
• Programming will run from 10 - 5p each day;
• We ask that you keep from 5-7p on Saturday (8/15) open.

// what people are saying \\

"The Feels retreat was one of the most transformative, powerfully magical experiences of my life. Over the course of a weekend, through group and 1:1 encounters (as well as in solitary reflection), many new possibilities have opened up in how I approach intimate relationships of all kinds. This was an amazing initiation into Loving Awareness, and the work continues!"

"I learned so many new skills at the wkndr. I feel like I’m a different person, more efficacious in my romantic life."

"Feels Wkndr allowed me to explore the full spectrum of being human in a supportive environment. The extremes, the in-between states, and the all important transition periods we move through every day. The retreat itself feels like it became an important chapter in my story; relatively short sweet, and full of important character development. But the post-retreat processing marked a new chapter I didn’t expect. Honestly, one of the highest value parts of the whole experience itself."

"This event is hard to describe but I'll try. It’s a combination of group therapy, mindfulness, learning about various aspects of relationships (dating, love, attachment, patterns, consent), socializing with a group of real people who are prepared to be vulnerable and empathetic, and going on dates with some of the participants. Some of the activities after the lecture can bring up some difficult emotions. But you’re not alone -- everyone was empathetic, kind and nonjudgemental (at least, publicly). What can it do for you? This event will help you get out of your head and serve as a mental and emotional reset. It could find you a partner (unlikely) or friends. You will meet real people with interesting life stories and experiences who will be vulnerable. It will remind you to be playful and mindful. It will teach you something new about relationships and the various schools of thought."

“…[the wkndr 2025] it will probably go down as one of the most memorable weekends of my life.

Allie put together an amazing curriculum centered around dating/relationship with yourself, dating/your relationship with others, and your relationship with community.

I won't dive into specifics as I'd recommend going in as blind as you can plus not wanting to dive into others' stories here. But if you're single, want to exam your relationship with relationships and really dive deep with a supportive community all doing the same, it's totally worth it…”

//about Allie Hoffman, MArts, Psychology.\\

For nearly 20 years, Allie's work has focused on systems change. In her 30’s, Allie ran a digital marketing agency; as founder of the Equality Equation, media she produced or directed has been viewed more than 150 million times, and changed laws in 33 different states. EE’s clients included Alicia Keys, Charlize Theron, Pharrell Williams, Caitlyn Jenner, Jose Andres, and more.

In 2021, Allie transitioned from building digital --> IRL movements, and began focusing exclusively at the intersection of modern dating x inner work x community. Her flagship offering, 'the feels', was launched in Aug 2022 and since then has hosted thousands of people in NYC, LA, SF, DC, Philly, Chicago + Miami.

On a weekly basis, Allie publishes a Substack that is read by thousands; in addition to press coverage that ‘the feels’ has received in the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, USA Today and many more, Allie’s media appearances include Fox32 Chicago, Fox 29 Philadelphia, the Hollywood Hamilton Show, the News Movement, and her speaking appearances include Summit at Sea, and Northwestern University Kellogg’s School of Management, among others.

Allie holds an undergraduate degree in political science from the University of Southern California and a Masters Degree in Spiritual Psychology from Columbia University. To follow her on IG: @alliehoffman.

// more from the feels \\

for those who love to truly dive deep, we also offer an online course for anyone wanting to better understand and navigate modern dating. it covers the history of how we got here, why it feels so challenging right now, and offers practical tools to show up differently. it includes video lessons, a workbook, and a curated reading list -- and its the best way we can think of, to prep for your level 1 experience. its $79 and available here.