The Ins and Outs of Play Parties

May 8th

7 PM - 9 PM PDT

Hosted by TurnON.love
Oakland, CA -
58 people on the list-

Sex parties, aka play parties, are a provocative way to explore your sexuality and relationships, experiment with different fantasies or desires, and discover new aspects of yourself. They offer an empowering opportunity to challenge societal taboos while connecting with others who also question the status quo. However, without the proper preparation, play parties can also feel intimidating and intense. Whether flying solo or with a partner, learn how to feel confident navigating play parties and maximize your ability to experience pleasure and fun!

In this experiential workshop with intimacy coach and educator Dr. Alison Ash of TurnON.love you will:

Address common anxieties, fears, and misconceptions surrounding play parties and the reframes that will alleviate your anxieties.
Discover a plethora of tips and tricks for meeting new people and making nourishing connections.
Receive valuable insights on attending play parties solo or alongside a partner.
Learn how to navigate consent culture and play party etiquette so you feel empowered and safe
Tackle potential challenges and develop tactics for navigating them before, during, and after parties.

Play parties may seem daunting but they can also be exciting and rewarding. The practical guidance, captivating anecdotes, and interactive exercises in this workshop will equip you to explore play parties with confidence and skill!

Can’t attend in-person or on these dates? Rent the on-demand version!

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Reviews

“This class enabled my partner and I to level up our communication in ways we never anticipated! We deeply enjoy Dr. Aly’s classes, but this one changed our relationship dramatically. At last, we have language around how to deal with our conflicts, to drop into the moment, and to help each other feel deeply seen and loved.” - S.W.

“Dr. Aly’s repair workshop was excellent. She teaches a template to have a difficult conversation and keep it on track even when emotions are flying. The class was a good mix of talk time and experiential time, and we got to interact with others in the class in a safe environment!” - J.D.

“What I learned has been incredibly useful in helping me to navigate difficult conversations. I found the information, the tips and the opportunity to practice so helpful. I have definitely noticed a difference in how I react and respond, and it has been incredibly powerful.” -R.C.

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Instructor Bio

Dr. Alison Ash, aka Dr. Aly, is a trauma-informed intimacy coach and educator, Stanford University Lecturer, author, and founder of TurnON.love. As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, she has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering intimate experiences. She has helped pioneer research into the orgasm gap and has written on topics ranging from pleasure in heterosexual dynamics to queer and trans identities and experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi Mindful Somatic Psychotherapy, Innate Somatic Intelligence Trauma Therapy Approach, and Somatica Method of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves. Dr. Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to be able to cultivate and sustain nourishing emotional and sexual intimacy. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at www.TurnON.love and on Instagram and Facebook.

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Important Information

* Tickets are not refundable. They may be transferred to another individual but not to a future event.

* I offer one volunteer ticket per event, and while I appreciate those that love to be of service, I ask that you save this opportunity for those who require financial assistance to be able to attend. You may also apply for a sliding scale ticket.

* Please take an at-home antigen test on the day of the workshop and take a photo of your results. Tests can also be purchased at the door for $10. If you are feeling unwell or develop symptoms, please stay home. Masks will be optional.

* I welcome folks of all genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, ages, body types, abilities, races, and ethnicities.

* This venue is partially accessible. The workshop space is wheelchair accessible, but the bathrooms are not. There is a gender inclusive bathroom on site.

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