Welcome to Yes Sir!

A men-only BDSM impact play party for intensity, tension, and consensual exploration

Yes Sir! is a men-only BDSM impact party built for men who want a darker, more charged space for impact, tension, and kinky exploration. Impact play is the theme of the night, with room for other BDSM play as it unfolds.

Expect a room where flogging, spanking, paddles, canes, whips, rough body play, sensual impact, heavier impact, bondage, restraint, CBT, and power exchange can all have a place. Sex is not the focus of the party, but may happen within negotiated scenes.

There is a separate social lounge area for talking, aftercare, grounding, and connecting outside of active play. Attendees are responsible for their own choices, negotiations, boundaries, scenes, safer-sex practices, and aftercare.

The Kink Collective’s MITPISA negotiation forms will be available to support clearer pre-scene conversations, especially for people meeting or negotiating play in the room.

Click here for more details on MITPISA

What to Expect

8 PM | Doors Open

• Arrive, settle in, and connect in the social lounge before moving into play.
• This is a good time to meet people, talk through interests, ask questions, and begin negotiating any scenes you may want to explore.

8:45 PM | Welcome + Room Agreements

• We gather briefly to review the flow of the event, consent expectations, safety agreements, etiquette, and how the room works.
• If you arrive after this welcome, you are still welcome. A facilitator will give you the essential room agreements at check-in before you enter the play space.

9 PM | Play + Scenes open

• Once the room opens, men are free to negotiate, play, socialize, observe, and move through the space at their own pace.

1 AM | Party Ends

The Vibe

• Ambient lighting and expressive house music that drive the energy

• Furniture designed for real use, not just atmosphere

(Benches, suspension points, spanking benches, massage tables, wall space, kneeling benches, stocks, and more)

• A dark, masculine, impact forward environment where tension, desire, and control can build with consent and clarity

• Space for scenes to unfold with intensity, creativity, control, and care

• A separate social lounge for talking, aftercare, grounding, and connection

What to Bring

• Implements, toys, gear, lube, safer-sex supplies, or comfort items you plan to use.
• A shareable snack or drink is always welcome at the communal snack table
• Alcohol is welcome in moderation only. No illegal drugs.

Dress Code

Dress for the energy of the party.

• Fetishwear, jocks, briefs, harnesses, leather, rubber, sportswear, shirtless, or nude are all welcome.
• Nudity is allowed throughout the space.
• If you are sitting on shared furniture, keep your bottom covered or clean the surface appropriately.

The dress code isn't manditory for entry or to attend this party, you may show up any way that makes you comfortable and confident!

Meet Your Facilitators

Yes Sir! is held by Dan, a seasoned member of The Kink Collective.

We are grounded in our philosophy of People Before Kink — creating a space where consent, clarity, and care support a wide range of impact and BDSM exploration.

This is a self-led BDSM Impact play party. The Kink Collective team holds the space, reviews expectations, supports the room, and helps maintain the container, but we do not manage individual scenes.

Everyone attending is responsible for their own negotiations, boundaries, choices, consent, safer-sex practices, and aftercare.

Location + Entry

Where: The Sanctuary of East Harlem

Address: 113 East 125th Street, New York, NY 10035

Entry Instructions: Enter through the door to the right of Forno on 125th. Look for 113 in the window above.

• Push the door hard to enter.

Accessibility: No elevator. 20 steps total.

Interested in becoming a member?

You do not need to be a member to attend YES SIR!.

Members receive discounted Sanctuary Sessions tickets and free access to our weekly online space, Conscious Conversations, for deeper connection and ongoing community. [link here]

A Look at The Sanctuary of East Harlem

Each event is set up to match the energy and purpose of the night. For Yes Sir!, the space is arranged to support impact, tension, connection, aftercare, and BDSM exploration.

Tickets 🎟️

$30 Members, $40 Solo, $60 Partner Tickets ( 2)

🎟 Reserve Your Space Today, Click Here

Interested in becoming a member?

You do not need to be a member to attend YES SIR!. Members receive discounted Sanctuary Sessions tickets and free access to our weekly online space, Conscious Conversations, for deeper connection and ongoing community. [link here]

BDSM Wording Explained

Definitions for the terms you may see throughout our events.

• Scene: an agreed-upon exchange between people, discussed ahead of time with clear boundaries, consent, expectations, and aftercare.
• Negotiation: the conversation before play where people talk through interests, limits, roles, safety needs, intensity, and aftercare.
• MITPISA: The Kink Collective’s consent and negotiation framework, designed to help people talk through interests, boundaries, safety needs, intensity, and aftercare before play begins.
• Pickup-play: play negotiated with someone you meet at the event. All pickup play should be clearly discussed and agreed to before anything begins.
• Power exchange: consensual play where people intentionally explore roles, control, service, dominance, submission, or authority.
• Energy exchange: the felt connection between people during play — the way attention, emotion, sensation, intention, and response move back and forth between them.
• Boundaries: the personal limits and needs someone communicates before or during play, including what is welcome, what is not, and what must stop if crossed.
• Impact play: consensual play involving sensation or force on the body, often through hands, floggers, paddles, canes, belts, straps, or other agreed-upon implements.