Open Community Discussion Potluck Sunnyvale 9/25/26

Connect with non monogamous community in the south bay over a shared potluck meal and conversation.

Come share stories, build connections, and meet new friends in a welcoming space centered on authentic, intentional, open-hearted relationships in community.

This community values consent, honesty, authenticity, vulnerability, kindness, acceptance, and accountability.

These events are centered around the experience of non-traditional, non-monogamous connections.

You don’t have to be dating or practicing any particular relationship style to attend.

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WHAT TO EXPECT at a glance

Size: This is a specifically smaller than usual sized discussion potluck.

Overall Event Flow

We start with freestyle socializing and a casual potluck at 7pm.

Opening circle starts promptly at 8pm, where we review guidelines and introduce the discussion topic. We then break into small discussion groups for about an hour. Topics vary and usually center around non-monogamy, connection, or communication.

The Social Landscape

• This event is a community gathering place. It is a place for learning, sharing, and practicing new ideas and skills.
• You may be invited into conversation, friendship, cuddling, flirting.
• You will likely see PDA between friends and partners: hugs, hand-holding, light kissing, cuddling individually or in groups, etc.

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COMMUNITY GUIDELINES

By attending this event, you agree to read and abide by these community guidelines.

Consent 🤝

• Ask before entering someone’s personal space: “Would you like a hug?” or “Can I sit here next to you?”
• A yes once does not equal blanket consent.
• Anything that is not a clear yes is a no, including hesitation or silence.
• People may say yes to some people and no to others. Respect both.

🫸 Physical Touch 🫷

• Consensual affection between attendees who are comfortable with each other is common. You may see or be invited into platonic touch, including hugging, cuddling, or hand-holding.
• Participation is always optional. Saying no is welcomed and respected.
• If you’re looking for spaces to build comfort with platonic touch and practice navigating boundaries, check out Autumn’s platonic touch workshops posted on EventBrite.

Conversation 💬

• This is not a kink- or sex-focused event.
• Check with others within hearing distance before sharing explicit sexual or kink details.
• Respect different comfort levels.

Holding Space 🤗

• You are invited to hold space for others and for yourself.
• Holding space means letting people speak their truth and exist as they are, without assumptions, judgment, unsolicited advice, or pressure to fix anything.

Confidentiality 🤫

• Everything shared in this group should be treated as confidential and private.
• Do not share stories that identify others without their permission.
• Do not greet people outside this group in a way that could out them.
• Do not take or share photos or videos without the clear consent of everyone involved.

Diversity 🌈

• Expect to encounter a variety of relationship styles, orientations, gender expressions, and life experiences.
• Comfort levels around touch, vulnerability, and boundaries will vary.

EVENT CONDUCT

• This event is a non-sexual space.
• Kissing, cuddling, and flirting may occur, but please keep it light and appropriate for the setting.
• No heavy cruising.

SCHEDULE

New attendees: You are required to be on time for opening circle. If you realize you will be late for opening circle at your first event, please do not attend and instead plan to attend a future event.

7:00–8:00 — Socializing & Potluck

8:00–8:15 — Opening Circle

8:15–9:15 — Small Group Discussion

9:15–9:30 — Closing Circle

9:30–10:00 — Social Time

SMALL DISCUSSION GROUP

What to expect

• Attendees will be divided into small groups of 5–6 people for about an hour. Groups are conversation-focused around a shared topic.
• You’re welcome to listen, share, or simply be present. Participation in conversation or platonic touch is optional.
• Some attendees may choose to sit close, hold hands, or cuddle with other consenting participants while talking.
• If you came with a partner or support person, you can choose to be in the same group or join different groups.
• To stay together: Sit next to each other during opening circle and let the facilitator know when the count-off reaches you.

TOPIC: Metamours

One thing that isn't always obvious when you're new to non-monogamy: You don't have to have a relationship with your partner's other partners.

Maybe you totally vibe and become friends. Maybe you build a close polycule. Maybe you don't ever see them.

Whether or not you date them, be friends with them, or spend any time with them is optional and dependent on the connection you do or don't have with your metamour. You can form a happy triad, or simply be okay with your partner dating them and have agreements with your partner that feel good to you.

• What kind of relationship, if any, do you want with your metamours?
• What if you meet them and just... don't really like them? Like, they're just not your kind of tea, but your partner totally thinks they taste great! Are you okay with that?
• What about veto power? When might it be useful or protective? What problems can it create?
• If veto power feels ick, what about instead having the right to share observations and be heard?
• What agreements do you need with your partner, regardless of your relationship with their other partners, in order to feel safe and secure?

VENUE DETAILS

Location: Private home in Sunnyvale. Do not enter through the front door, enter through the gate on the right. Second door on the left down a side alley. The exact venue address will be included in the confirmation email after purchasing your Eventbrite ticket. Be sure to scroll down in the confirmation email to find it.

Parking: Street parking nearby. Do not park in driveway.

Accessibility: One step up into venue. Bathroom will probably not fit a wheelchair.

Pets

No indoor pets. The other unit is currently fostering cats, which have not been in this unit (so far).

POTLUCK 🍲

Bring food or drinks to share, either home-cooked or takeout.

On the day of the event, you are encouraged to share what food or drink you’re bringing in the Plura event chat.

NO SUBSTANCES

• No hard drugs
• No Alcohol or Smoking (Cannabis or Tobacco).

TICKET OPTIONS

There are several ticket types. The only valid way to attend is to get a ticket through Eventbrite.

1) EPAY — Skip Eventbrite Fees

Use the EPAY promo code at checkout, then send payment after your ticket is confirmed.

• $5 — Volunteer
• $15 — New & Standard
• $20 — Supporting

Venmo (Preferred): @Rosezeitler

Apple Cash: Rosezeitler@gmail.com

PayPal: @Rosezeitler

Select the correct payment option so your app doesn’t add or deduct fees. Include the event date and “potluck” in the payment note.

2) CASH

Use the CASH promo code, then pay Rose directly at the event.

3) VOLUNTEER

A limited number of discounted volunteer tickets are available.

4) MC / HOSTS

Free tickets are available for MCs and hosts.

5) FREE

If the cost of a ticket would keep you from attending for any reason, use promo code FREE at checkout.

No questions asked. No volunteering required.

CONNECTION & FEEDBACK

Want to keep in the loop about Open Community events?

Send an email to OpenHeartedCommunity@gmail.com and request to be added to the open community email list.

You can also use this email for feedback, suggestions, topic ideas, or offers to host or facilitate.

Follow us on Plura through Open Community events or join the Open Community Topic on Plura to chat with others from community

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