Vancouver Poly 101: November

Join us for our monthly discussion, facilitated by Megan Veaudry and Mel Cassidy.

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November's discussion will take place at The Pleasant

This month we have a slightly different format. The first half will be a mini workshop presented by Megan, followed by our usual interactive discussion format.

This month our topic is "The Four Dark Riders of the Relationship Apocalypse", Megan's gender-neutral take on John and Julie Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse.

The Four Dark Riders are negative communication styles that research has shown predict relationship doom. We will discuss how these communication styles (Defensiveness, Criticism, Contempt and Stonewalling) show up in relationships, why they are so destructive, and what we can do about them.

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This event is held at The Pleasant, on Main Street in Mount Pleasant, in their spacious, private back room. They have a delicious menu and a wide variety of alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks. Please help support them and their Staff by ordering food and beverages if you are able to, as anything ordered goes towards the minimum spend required to use the space. You are not obligated to order anything to participate in the discussion.

Paid street parking is available nearby.

Evening Outline:

7:00: Arrive, socialize, order food & drinks, meet in the restaurant's back room/gallery.

7:15: Soft Start - Icebreaker and Somatic Moment

7:30: Discussion

8:00: Short Break

8:15: Discussion

9:00: Discussion Ends.

The Pleasant is open until 10pm or so, so feel free to stay and socialize afterwards.

*Accessibility Information*

We want you all to stay healthy!

Please do not attend if you are sick or have any cold/flu symptoms.

Mel brings their large-space HEPA filter to help keep the air clean for us.

There are no stairs leading to the venue, the washrooms are non-gendered and there are wheelchair accessible washrooms.

The Pleasant can be noisy, but we have had success with addressing the noise issues by meeting on the same night as Trivia Night in the main restaurant.

You are welcome to bring a notebook or tablet to make notes, but no recording (including Meta glasses) is allowed.

***About Vancouver Poly 101***

Vancouver Poly 101 is an online and in-person group, located on Coast Salish territories, specifically the unceded territories of the Musqueam, Squamish, and Tsleil-Waututh Nations, in Vancouver BC, whose purpose is to connect individuals, primarily in the local area for discussion, education and friendship.

We acknowledge and recognize the role of colonialism in disrupting Indigenous relationships, including the punishment of non-monogamous intimate relationships.

The group was created for and by people who are exploring or committed to relationships that fall outside the societal norms of monogamy.

Activities of the group include, but are not limited to:

- A Facebook group

- Monthly, in-person facilitated discussions, sometimes with guest speakers

- Sharing of resources and media

- Creating a safer space, both online and in-person, where friendship and mutual peer support can flourish

- Member-organized in-person events